Identity

A place for parents to find help for the siblings of kids with intellectual disability and autism.

Introduction

This page has been informed by the research and advocacy work of Siblings Australia.

Helping children build a positive self-image and strong sense of who they are will help them feel belonging and valued. This can help them to be more resilient and build the skills they need to look after their wellbeing.

For many children, a part of growing up and going through puberty is that identity, social groups, and connections to friends become increasingly important. As the connections in young people’s lives evolve, their family connections can also go through a time of change. As young people approach adulthood, they may start thinking about how to balance their needs with family needs, moving out, romantic relationships, etc. Times of change can be exciting and challenging, and children with a sibling with intellectual disability and/or autism can face extra challenges due to the realities of family life where a sibling has specific support needs.

You can support your child in developing a positive self-image and feeling confident in their role as a sibling and in all parts of their identity.

Strategies for you to try

Talk openly to children
Be open to talking about issues as they arise in everyday life. This can help prevent children from developing unnecessary fears and worries and help them advocate for their sibling and themselves.
Create positive self-image strategies
Involve all your children in Planet Puberty Creating a positive self-image strategies such as art activities and modelling open communication.
Identify bullying and provide support
Use Planet Puberty Bullying information to help recognise bullying and provide support.
Support gender and sexual identity
Use Planet Puberty Supporting gender and sexual identity information to support children in their journey to discovering, developing and connecting to who they are.
Support hobbies
Support children in taking part in the hobbies they enjoy and trying new things. Children may be eligible for support programs to help them access services and activities, find out more in resources.
Talking to children
Talk to children about their experience of having a sibling with intellectual disability and/or autism. Some siblings identify as a ‘glass child’, which is a term used to describe the challenges and unique strengths of children who have a sibling with disability. Acknowledging the glass child experience and connecting with the stories of other glass children can help children build a positive self-image and strengthen identity. Find out more in resources.
Future planning
Address the topic of future planning so young people can determine and plan for their future role in supporting their sibling. Find out more in resources.

Conversation Starters

“What are your 3 favorite things about yourself?”
“What do you value in other people? What do you value in yourself?” (examples of values are honesty, loyalty, independence, security, family, adventure)
“When do you feel happy and safe? What do your family and friends do that help you to feel happy and safe?”

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Introduction to puberty for girls
Identity

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Welcome to lessons!

Lessons help keep you and your child on track to navigating planet puberty. We have specially curated these to help teach certain themes. Let’s have a look around to get you aquainted.

Supporting your child’s independence – Michael’s story

Did your period make you feel different? – Story

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