Identifying and Communicating how I feel

Label emotions as they occur in different situations in your child’s life. This could be when your child is reading a book, watching television or meeting family and friends. Many shows for primary school age children will cover identifying emotions, with content readily available on platforms like YouTube. We always recommend reviewing any media yourself first before watching with your child and making sure videos come from reputable sources.

In the example below, the characters are learning to identify emotions based on situations, physical signs and tone of voice:

If your child is experiencing strong emotions you can respond by identifying those emotions. For example, you may say “You’re laughing. You must be feeling happy.” Or “you’re laughing, how are you feeling right now?”

You might also use mirrors to help your child recognise what their feelings might look like on their face. You can sit with your child and ask them to make different faces or have them identify a feeling on your face. There are also a wide range of games available to help teach children about feelings. Try searching ‘Feelings games for children’.

Drawing and art can be an engaging way for your child to communicate how they are feeling. Ask your child to show you how they are feeling by drawing a face that expresses these feelings. Or you could use a large sheet of butcher’s paper to trace the outline of your child’s body. Ask your child to draw where in their body they are feeling their emotions and use different colours and shapes to symbolise that emotion.

Feelings scales and emotion charts can be made up of numbers, traffic lights or a range of faces expressing different emotions. Some children find these useful for identifying and communicating their emotions at a given moment. For example, if your child experiences something that has made them angry you can ask them to identify which face shows what they are feeling. This can be a good way to provide your child with a way to present their emotions calmly and appropriately.

To help your child identify and express feelings throughout the day, you might like to create a notebook with easy to identify faces, colours and other identifiers your child can relate to. This will help your child generalise their skills in the community and give them a quick reference guide for communication. If your child is non-verbal, this can be a particularly useful communication aid that is personalised and does not rely on computer or internet access.